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Divorce Counselor, Counseling, Denver, Centennial, Counseling Connection LLC, Call Louann today for professional healing support at 303-721-0005

Recently, a beautiful woman, begged me to save her marriage. She is not alone in seeking help for this situation. Half of all marriages end in divorce. The following coping strategies may be helpful to you or an acquaintance experiencing similar circumstances.

Unfortunately, no one can save a marriage unless BOTH partners are committed to staying and working on the marriage together. The only power you have is to work on yourself. This strategy will be good for you, (you need to take care of yourself right now), and it will boost your self-esteem.


The control you have in this situation is over yourself and your own behavior. Stop focusing on controlling your partner or ex-partner. You can’t control them anyway, and it will be hugely frustrating and emotionally exhausting to try.


It’s normal, when a long-term relationship ends, to feel hurt and angry. However, blaming yourself entirely, or deciding that you must be a failure or unlovable is simply not true, and a sure road to misery. Instead, do your best to de-personalize your partner’s actions. His/her actions are a reflection of himself or herself, not you.


Other things you can do:


Allow yourself time to grieve, but, do not obsess. Obsessing over your situation will not change it.


Deciding you need closure, is just an excuse to see or talk to the person again.  Whatever closure you get will never be enough, anyway.  What you really need to do is grieve, heal, and move on.


Change your thinking. Try saying an affirmation such as ‘I am a lovable and capable human being,’ or ‘I am worthy of love,’ or ‘I will get through this, heal, and end up in a better relationship.’


Keep busy. Keep the rest of your life as normal as possible. You need to do things to feel good about yourself. Get up in the morning, figure out something you can accomplish each day, and do it!


Keep up your connections to the world. It is important to spend time with the connections you have outside of your old relationship. This does not include using your connections to check up on your ex.


Exercise may be the hardest thing to start doing right now, but taking walks outside can help you build strength, feel better about yourself, feel sexier, ease depression and help you sleep.


Call Louann today for professional healing support at 303-721-0005.

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